I FEEL LIKE THE MAID

Many of the moms I talk to say, “I feel like the maid in my own house”, or “doesn’t anyone else see the mess?”  Many studies still show that  the majority of the responsibility for running the home falls on women.  Maybe that's because it’s more important to us – or at least we’re more aware of what needs to be done.

Anna, a mom of three, felt discouraged with the constant mess – tolerating toys all over the floor, jackets and backpacks left on tables and no one putting anything away.  She felt stuck with no end in sight.  I gave her some action steps using tools to motivate her children to help around the house.  One successful tool was the “Maid Service Box.” Find a basket about the size of a produce box with handles and designate a “maid for the week.”  This person announces an appearance (best done just before dinner or 20 minutes before bed) and everyone in the family has 20 minutes to scurry around the house (excluding bedrooms) and pick up what’s theirs and get it to their rooms.  The designated maid then goes through the house and puts in the basket what she/he has found left out, and the item’s owner must either pay a “fine” to get it back or else do one of the maid’s jobs around the house.  The pay is a small amount, and at the end of the month the family takes the money and goes out for pizza.  The “maid tool” allows the mom, after the children go to bed, to enjoy a clean, picked-up house and more time for herself.  It’s amazing what three or four people can do in 20 minutes that ordinarily might require the rest of the night to accomplish by yourself.

Anna also became aware that if she provided places to put things, she could established more order and instill the habits in her children to put things away.  So she put hooks by the back door for jackets, a large basket to hold muddy shoes and a shelf for backpacks.  We discussed containers for toys for the youngest child – plastic, see-through, stacking boxes, or baskets.  It is important to separate toys into different containers by subject (for example trucks and cars in one container, art supplies in another, puzzles with all their pieces in another, dolls and doll clothes in another and so on).  This helps not only in organizing toys but in the cleaning up process as well.  If your child can't read, put a picture of the toys that are in the container on the front and if they can read, write the name (trucks and cars for example) on the front.  This way, when it's time to pick up toys, they can be put back in the appropriate container, put away, and ready for play the next time.  With these action steps, Anna is no longer stuck and is tolerating less mess, as well as getting help from her kids – she no longer feels like the maid!

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The opportunity to be coached by Dee has changed the quality of my life.  As a mother of four children ranging in age from 3 to 15,  I chose to put my family first not realizing that by doing this I was putting myself last. 

Through coaching, I have learned that when I pay attention to my needs and values, I can create a life that fulfills me and therefore blesses my family.  It is the best gift I have given my family.  I make choices to fill myself with what truly makes me feel like I am living and not just existing...a difference I could never live without now! 

Thank you Dee!

Marie-Anne B
Homemaker/ Graduate Studies


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